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Can you really let go of what doesn’t work in your life? Or are you so accustomed to it being a part of your life, you just wouldn’t quite know what to do if it just disappeared? Wow, I hope that’s not your answer, but for some people I’ve met, it’s unfortunately true.

What doesn’t work always wants to be your buddy. It has a way of being there, trying to convince you that this time it’s different, but it never is. Let’s face it, what doesn’t work, just doesn’t work. It never has, and it never will. When will people get that?

How much time has been wasted trying to fix a relationship that has come unstuck so many times, it now needs superglue to keep it together. Come on, if that’s you, why stay with what doesn’t work? Is it really worth it? Have you got so used to the drama that comes with the relationship, it has become the ‘norm’, rather than finding a new relationship, one that actually gives you the happiness you haven’t felt for far too long.

What about your career, is it working for you? You want to be successful in your chosen career, but no-one notices what you actually do. Sound familiar? You are just a face in the crowd, with everyone else seemingly pushing in front of you for those all­ important accolades. You don’t feel valued, yet somehow you want success to find you. You begin to live the dream of success, rather than be a participant in what it can be.

If this happens, don’t just accept your dream of success. Instead you need to want the real thing. Letting go of what doesn’t work will enable you to have that success you’ve always told yourself you wanted.

So ask yourself – what is it that doesn’t work in your life? What would you need to let go of? You could probably reel off a number of things, with some being much more important than others. But stop counting. For there is really only one answer. A very simple answer. It’s your perception of your own self-value. That is what doesn’t work. Having this perception has led to all those things you have just remembered that don’t work in your life.

In everything you want and do, you absolutely need self-value to achieve success. When you value who you are, it stirs up that passion and drive you have inside you to succeed. In a perfect world, your self-value would be a natural part of you, everything and everyone in your life would be just perfect. But we don’t live in a perfect world. We live in the world we create for ourselves, and you can’t just give up and accept second-best for yourself. You deserve better than that. You cannot allow yourself, not ever, to accept what doesn’t work in your life.

You have to create a life and a future that works. You need to change the way you see yourself. My mind travel ‘Creating the Future you want‘ program, shows you how to do that. This program was designed by myself for people who have decided they don’t want to accept what doesn’t work in their life anymore. It’s time to let go of what doesn’t work – after all, you can’t take what doesn’t work into a new future.

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Blog written by Diane Swaffield. Read with love by Jason, in dedication and inspired memory of Diane.

It is what we experience that is real. It is what we experience that determines the nature of how we see reality – what’s possible, or what’s not. That is what determines how we ‘see’ reality. How we see what is possible. How we interpret the events around us, and within us.

When we look at ‘reality’, how foolish is it for anyone to view the world we live in based on the preconceived ideas of what others think! Surely an experience is far more credible than what conventional belief systems tell us. Because, whilst subjective, aren’t experiences still actual? They are not merely stories you find it a book – they happen. And aren’t belief systems often just temporary opinions entrenched by popular culture or popular science? I call most of it dogma or ‘convenient science’. What can be considered fact one day can be recognised as incorrect the next. What is often considered ‘heresy’ can later be hailed as ‘revolutionary’. How easily one can be ridiculed trying to open peoples minds, only to be remembered as extraordinary when they were no longer with us. I would rather we look at what is Real in the Now. Why wait! Surely it’s our experiences that tell us how things work and what is possible. It is our experiences that show us what we are capable of, how to define ourselves and the world we live in.

Talk to anyone who has had an experience, and they can tell you in great detail what it was, what happened and what it means to them. It shapes how they view themselves and the world. But talk to someone who has not had an experience but instead bases their understanding on a belief system and all they can give you is an image. Perhaps it is something they’ve simply grown up with, read or been ‘educated’ about. However, it is only a version of a version. A belief. An adopted opinion. Regurgitated information based on acceptability or cultural, social or peer group pressure.

Perhaps its time we stop thinking so much, and start becoming aware.

If we define our reality by our experiences and how we relate to them, we open up so many channels of discovery. New ways of understanding. New levels of awareness, both about ourselves and about the nature of our lives. So surely .. experience determines ‘reality’.

There are literally millions of experiences documented and shared over the decades past that go unexplained. Why? Just because conventional ‘knowledge’ or ‘science’ can’t answer them? That’s ridiculous. And this being so, doesn’t it say more about the lack of credibility of the ‘knowledge base of science’? Why should ‘convention’ bring into question the validity of unexplained experiences when so many people have them? Especially when they show us that reality, time and memory is not what we are taught to believe it is.

Perhaps if we took all the people over all the years who have had experiences that cannot be explained by mainstream knowledge .. and put them all together. We might find there are so many they might be the majority after all! Experience should have the casting vote over the so-called ‘definition of reality’ we are told is factual. Because what is conventional fact when it comes to the unexplained? It is irrelevant – that’s what it is. Conventional facts are simply the rules of resistance to stop further investigation. Fences to stop you wandering into the truth.

Let’s take a simple example. If I have an experience where, say, I lose time. I can’t explain it, and it cannot be rationalised away despite many valiant efforts to do so. My experience showed me time is not constant or fixed. It showed me time is fluid. It showed me time is subjective, and my consciousness played a major part in it. Perhaps there were other energy influences, forces or anomalies involved I could not see or measure? It tells me many things that I both do and don’t know. And both are important. And so it is the experience that tells me there is an understanding of reality that allows me to see what time is .. or more importantly what time isn’t. Now I have an appreciation and an openness that my experience showed me more about the nature and illusion of my reality than I ever realised.

If I simply read a notion of time in a physics book that tells me time is a linear measurement interwoven with forces such as ‘gravity’ and the photonic energy of light .. what then? This version of reality, created by somebody’s meticulous “rubber ruler” calculations and concepts doesn’t even come close to explaining my simple experience. So how can I apply it to what I just experienced? I cannot. Because conventional thinking is really good at telling us what is not possible and what cannot happen, and what I experienced cannot and does not happen .. but it just did. So who is mistaken? Certainly not the person who had the experience.

No matter how credible it appears in a book, when it comes to the true nature of reality what if what is written does not explain a simple experience of someone else’s reality? Then it is incomplete. And if it is incomplete, should it be the guide as to what determines reality? No.

So what determines reality? We do. The person who had the experience about time going fast or slow, backwards or forwards. The person who knows what they saw when no-one else believes them. The person who knows what they feel, even though they cannot explain it. The person who has memories they cannot explain that don’t fit into who they believe they are. The person who keeps an open mind .. that truth is an ever changing movement of awareness.

If you have had an experience, YOU are the person who has a greater hold on what is real than any person who never had the experience at all.

Remember that. Do not doubt yourself, ever.

Does this sound familiar?  ..  No matter how hard you try, you just keep listening to all those negative thoughts in your head that just won’t go away.  They don’t always give you the best advice when you need it, but instead they often get in the way of solving an issue with their repetitive and often non-constructive reasoning.  When this happens, you are in a loop of your own thoughts that are referred to as ‘self-programming’.

This is your ‘self-talk’.  It’s the script you have created to protect yourself from issues such as: not feeling good enough, fear of rejection, negative body image, lack of confidence, and so on.  There are a great number of factors that involve negative self-programming, and they may have been with you for a long, long time.

Changing self-programming means you have to change how you talk to yourself.  It’s that simple.  However, many people have become accustomed to the way they think, the way they behave and the negative outcomes in their lives that have come from it.  They are the victims of this world, where nothing works, and nothing is fair.

Simply, you have to change.  Stop waiting for the world to change around you.  It’s not going to happen.  I bet you have invented so many excuses, justified everything you have done, as well as blamed so many people and situations, and guess what?  Your life still sucks.  It doesn’t work. It can also make you feel isolated, where no-one understands you and no-one is there for you.  Well, that’s what negative self-programming does for you.

So how easy is it to defeat self-programming?  As I have already said, self-programming is simply ‘self-talk’.  It’s what you say to yourself every single day, sometimes over and over again.  You say it so often that you have talked yourself into believing it.  It’s become a way of life.  It’s become your identity.  But if it’s not working for you, then it’s got to change.  That’s when the Mindhubb ‘Talk2Self’ technique can help you make that change.  So, I will now explain how it all works:

There are two aspects of the mind.  The conscious and the subconscious.  The subconscious mind acts according to the beliefs of the conscious mind, and does not distinguish whether those beliefs are good or bad, beneficial or destructive.  It is this subconscious belief system, which is often referred to as “a silent partner to consciousness” that plays back these beliefs as ‘self-talk’.

Your ‘self-talk’, or self-programming, can only change when a new belief, or a different attitude replaces it.  The Talk2Self technique is all about creating a new ‘script’, using your own trusted voice, which you have recorded, and then played back through your phone or other recording device, using head-sets for maximum concentration and privacy.  By listening to your own voice, with its change of script, and ‘believing’ with everything you have in what you are saying, then this new script, with its new beliefs, will filter down into your subconscious and replace the outgrown negative self-talk with the new version.

So let’s talk about your new script.  It needs to have content that changes your belief or attitude towards yourself, others, or perhaps an issue that has created your self-programming.  However, there are too many variables to be mentioned here.

Your script should be around 2 – 3 minutes long.  That’s about 350 – 500 words.  That’s enough time and content to create a new way of talking to yourself that cancels out the old self-dialogue.  Then you need to record your script on either your phone or another recording device you might have.  Remember to speak slowly and concisely, and don’t forget to emphasize what is important to you.  Then replay it back.  Make sure you’re happy with what you have said, and also how you have said it.  This should be listened to regularly over a period of time, until you notice the changes in your thinking. When you change your self-programming, then you change your life.  It’s that easy.

If you would like to take a step further in understanding yourself and your ‘most likely’ future that you are creating, then take a look at my Program titled ‘Creating the Future you want‘, which is available under the Mind Travel section of The Journey Home website. Not only will it change your life, it will change your future.  This program will take you on a personal journey, mind travelling forward in time to view and experience your ‘most likely future’. You will then travel back in time to heal your past, become empowered to make change, then experience a guided Mind Travel exercise to create and experience your ‘new future’.

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Blog written by Diane Swaffield. Read with love by Jason, in dedication and inspired memory of Diane.

You’ve probably heard those two words many times. They sound like common-sense words; but let’s face it, who has time in this busy world to try and work out what they mean? Yes, balance and harmony sounds wonderful, but maybe you’re thinking it might take too much time out of your day, to even give it a try.

But what if these two words could end up being something you just can’t do without. They could become your support system through all that self-doubt and uncertainty you’re left with when things just don’t go the way you wanted.

They could help you stay calm when everything around you is in chaos. Instead of seeing the negative in a situation, you might even see the funny side of it. You may even begin to feel that passion and enthusiasm again for the things you once loved to do. Balance and Harmony could even become your new best buddies.

If you’re reading this from a negative and stressed self, you could probably think this all sounds a bit far-fetched. But that’s what happens when the negative side of someone hears about a solution, it can become too much to think about, and for that reason I need to get to the point, quickly.

How can you get Balance and Harmony to work for you in your life? Easy … first of all, you need to understand how it all works… Balance and Harmony ‘happens’ when you are physically, emotionally and mentally in alignment.

It all begins with your thought. What you think is so important Your thought affects your emotions, with your emotions then affecting your physical body. When you get your thinking in the right place, then the energy within your emotions is lessened, leading to a healthier physical body.

Now, that makes sense, doesn’t it? So getting your thinking in the right place is where you should start. All that memory getting in the way of being the person you really want to be. You need to let go of that past, it really isn’t that good for you. It’s the future you should be looking towards. What about a new future? A different future than the one you’re heading towards.

To have a different future, then you have to be different. You need to change how you think, so you don’t have a future that’s the same as your past. You need to feel good about yourself, and your physical body will thank you!

In my mind travel ‘creating the Future you want’ program I have designed a simple exercise that helps achieve Balance and Harmony.

A sample of this exercise is available on my ‘Creating the Future you want‘ program. So take time out and get some Balance and Harmony into your life. Try it and see. You’ll be so glad you did.

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Blog written by Diane Swaffield. Read with love by Jason, in dedication and inspired memory of Diane.

How many times have you sat in a quiet place, perhaps next to a beautiful water feature or some other representation of the natural environment. A location that forms a symbol of serenity, peace and what is a natural state. Symbolic of what is untouched and untainted. Left it its own pattern of survival compared to the busy-ness and needs of humanity who have changed the landscape of time.

A person’s needs and desires are often so temporary, and what is natural is so often overlooked, forgotten or even interfered with so it can meet the temporary desires of too few.

Let’s think about your life. Is it a product of sameness in the fabric of time? A symbolic gesture here and there in attempting to produce a natural theme so the quiet and serenity could create a sense of well-being?

Is it possible to create such as feeling? Well – yes – but only as a temporary solution as opposed to a natural way to be.

So what is the answer? Is there one? Or are we only investing time wondering without every really knowing.

Is a natural environment only a small part of a solution? How long can someone sit next to an environment that offers all they need to experience – that inner flow of peace and relaxation?

There are so many influences that would take this inner sense of quite and one-ness away. The weather turns cold and wet. Other people suddenly appear, creating their own sounds. Daylight disappears and night takes its place. Or the most obvious .. you just get tired of being there!

There is always a time factor involved. Whoever you are – whatever your needs are – it is all governed by what happens around you, but not by what happens within you.

Outer influences are so powerful. They can change your needs in a moment. From feeling at peace, to feeling alone. From feeling safe to feeling unsure and afraid. From feeling the one-ness to feeling disconnected. We are all affected by what happens around us.

So what is the solution? Is there one? There is, and it is the ‘Gateway’ to the Inner Self.

Life is what it is. You think take on a role and you either like your role or you don’t. You don’t get to change it very often – and if you do, it won’t be without a struggle. It’s certainly not easy swapping to a different role, because everyone’s been allocated one, and it’s not looked at in a favourable light if you go changing what’s been designated to you.

The ‘Self’ – not be confused with the Inner Self – has been filled with conditioning, programming and back-up systems to help keep the need for the role to stay intact. If that fails, then friends, family or colleagues are used to shift the focus back to your original role.

Whatever you do, there is always a battle around you for supremacy over your decisions, your needs and what makes you happy.

This battle will never stop whilst you want change. It’s an inward battle to retain some sense of peace and harmony amongst the outer influences that so often besiege you – or an inner recognition of acceptance of who you are and your place in the world.

When you stop struggling against the world, and the people around you, you slip quietly back to you role, and the battle ceases.

Now for those who cannot – and will not – accept this outcome, I need to talk about the Inner Self.

Quietly and majestically, it sits deep within your mind hidden from view until it is called into action.

So what is the Inner Self?

It is the part of you that can be seen as what is natural and pure. Is it the Spirit? No. Is it the Soul? No.

What it is, is the most natural, even forgotten, part of who you are. It is beyond desires, dreams and beyond beliefs. It is not affected by outer experiences or the influence of others. Instead, it is an inner place that needs to be explored and experienced.

When you discover the Inner Self, only then can you experience the peace and one-ness that you have been looking for.

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If you would like to take a further step towards creating the life you want, and the future you deserve, I have created a Program titled ‘Creating the Future you want‘, which is available under the Mind Travel section of The Journey Home website.  This program will take you on a personal journey, mind travelling forward in time to view and experience your ‘most likely future’. You will then travel back in time to heal your past, become empowered to make change, then experience a guided Mind Travel exercise to create and experience your ‘new future’.

This blog written by Diane Swaffield

Welcome to the 21st century…  where time is regarded as precious.  There’s just not enough of it to do everything you need to do.  Everything runs at such a fast pace, you find yourself prioritizing, just to keep up.

Your calendar is probably full for the month, and you’re already half-way to filling up next month’s as well.  Then there’s the clashing of invites from different friends or relatives, which leads to you spending so much time, you don’t have, on worrying which one you have to let down.

This technological age we live in has expanded our world.  It has offered us the ability to experience life in a totally different way than ever before.  It encourages us to learn, communicate and expand our understanding of the world and the people in it.  But it all takes time.

So if you can’t relax, and are wondering why, there are a couple of reasons you need to consider …

Firstly, you may have put yourself into a ‘self-expectation loop’, whereby you just can’t pull yourself away from being busy, as well as being there for everyone else.  Another way to put it would be to say “you don’t want to miss out on what’s going on”, so all of your time is directed towards what you expect from yourself, and what you believe other people want from you.

Secondly, it’s about how much energy you put into your busy life, and the stress that comes with it that prevents you from feeling relaxed.  This will also affect your sleep pattern, with many people not being able to get into a deep sleep, to rejuvenate and re-charge their body.  Instead, waking up as tired as they were the night before.  Too many people suffer from the ‘I can’t relax syndrome’ and it’s affecting their lives.  It’s no fun dragging yourself out of bed every morning, feeling absolutely exhausted, especially when that calendar is so full of what you have to do that day.

That’s when the thoughts arrive of “what I wouldn’t give to lie on a beach today, with nothing to do.  Just sit back, relax, have a drink. Feel the warm sun on me.  Mmm .. that would be so good!  I wish I didn’t have to go to work today”.   Now, what’s wrong with this picture?  Human behavior seems to have a way about it to want something when it’s not possible (when you need to meet your obligations and go to work).  But when it is possible, they don’t want it (weekend or other free time), they simply have too much to do.

If you’ve ever had those thoughts first thing in the morning, then it’s your body’s way of saying “I’ve had enough.  I want to relax.  Just stop, why don’t you! Take me where I can just switch off from this busy life”.  That’s when you need to listen, and take the next opportunity to do just that.  Don’t wait.  Do it as soon as you can.  Give all those thoughts a rest.

There are different types of relaxation.  Sport, hobbies, reading, having coffee with friends, dining out, watching TV, surfing the net.   But remember, your brain is still taking in information, sorting it out, evaluating it and storing it in the subconscious for it to be retrieved at a later time.  Whilst this is called relaxation, there’s an even better way to relax.

It’s when you give yourself the gift of time that does not involve others. This type of relaxation enables you to get back in touch with what you feel, rather than what you think.  Your brain is not overloaded with information.  Your breathing slows and, guess what?  You begin to relax.  It’s that easy.  It’s simply taking time-out for you, instead of being there for everyone else.

When you relax you also change your brain pattern away from the Beta state, which is associated with concentration and alertness.  In the Beta state neurons fire in rapid succession, helping you achieve peak performance. However, when you really begin to relax – you then enter the Alpha state, where your brain activity slows from the rapid patterns of Beta into the more gentle rhythm of Alpha.  This is when you feel truly relaxed, and your creativity and visualization is at its best.  You can then view your life with a greater sense of insight, enabling you to make decisions that were so difficult to do when you were feeling so tired and stressed.

If you would like to take a further step towards creating the life you want, and the future you deserve, I have created a Program titled ‘Creating the Future you want‘, which is available under the Mind Travel section of The Journey Home website.  This program will take you on a personal journey, mind travelling forward in time to view and experience your ‘most likely future’. You will then travel back in time to heal your past, become empowered to make change, then experience a guided Mind Travel exercise to create and experience your ‘new future’.